Let’s be real, over-thinking in romantic relationships is not uncommon. Sometimes, we get unlucky and become attached to someone that ultimately doesn’t want the same things as us. So now what? You may be asking yourself ‘how much longer will I be tracking his snap score, or even waiting for him to text me back?’ Here are 7 helpful tricks that will make you move on:
1. Block, forget, and reset:
Let’s be real, forgetting is much easier said than done. Constantly staring at your phone with his name screaming at you through the screen may make forgetting him hard. The constant temptation of ‘should I just snap him one more time’ will literally drive you off a bridge. Do yourself a favor and remove him from your social media. Some may argue that removing a person off social media is petty, but when putting yourself first, the situation becomes excusable. With their name no longer showing up on your phone, the forgetting process will be expedited.
2. Distract yourself with what makes you happy
Use this experience as an opportunity to discover something that you love, because clearly, your now-finished relationship is not your only source of happiness. Take this opportunity to challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone and try something new, something that puts a smile on your face. For example, dive into a pottery studio for the day and see if wheel throwing and ceramics brings you comfort. Take a workout class so your endorphins can distract your mind and body, bringing positive energy.
3. Treat yourself, put on some makeup and feel good in your own skin
Whenever we know we look good, we feel even better. Take this as your wakeup call to stop moping around. Take a hot shower, blowout your hair, and put on an outfit that makes you feel your best. Brush on some makeup and apply your favorite lip gloss, because why? You deserve it; you deserve to feel amazing. Remind yourself how beautiful you are, from the inside and out, and once you believe it, the guy will be so unimportant in your life.
4. Journal, put your phone away, and spend time with yourself
To connect with yourself, you first must disconnect from outside distractions. For example, challenge yourself to delete social media for a certain amount of time. It is so important to let your thoughts flow without scrolling through Instagram. Pop in those air pods, listen to your favorite album or podcast, and go on a walk outside. Better yet, take yourself on a date! Be present and aware of the scenery around you, and just enjoy this time with yourself. Take your alone time to fill up your own imaginary cup before you fill up others’. This practice of having alone time is very grounding and helps you realize that the only person who will never leave your side is yourself. Let this opportunity remind you how much love you have for yourself before anyone else comes into your life
5. Set goals for yourself
How do you possibly manage to keep moving forward if you don’t have something to look forward to? Setting goals for yourself, and then actually accomplishing those goals will not only make yourself proud, but it will take you a step further to a better mindset/life. Some examples of goals to set would be staying off your phone for a certain number of hours, meditating every day for a week, taking 10 minutes every morning to journal, or even finding time to work out for a certain amount of days. Whatever goals you set for yourself, think about how you will feel after doing that specific activity. Let that feeling you get motivate you to enhance your lifestyle and achieve those goals.
6. Genuinely practice the art of not caring of what people think
Saving the best for last, and most importantly, the statement that is easier said than done: not giving a damn what people think. Especially in today’s day and age, there is so much influence everywhere we go. There are times where you can put on a dress and feel so confident, but the second you step outside, you’re thinking ‘why did that girl look me up and down? should I go back and change? does this dress not look good on me?’. There are three words to solve this dilemma: get over it. As harsh as that may sound, it is true. People are all so focused on their own presence and life that the last thing they are thinking about is if that dress flatters you or not. The important thing to take from this is that it is your life and no one else’s. Do whatever makes you happy because at the end of the day, you are the most important person in your life.
Cover photo: Gyle Israel (The Crescent’s Graphic Design Team)
Eladia Michaels is a part of the Sex and the Crescent city column. She's a sophomore majoring in Communications with an English minor. In addition to being a part of the Crescent, Eladia enjoys trying new things with her friends, exploring new places around the world, and windows down car rides along the beach. Writing to her is simply thinking with her fingers.