<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’m not like other girls” is a phrase I have been hearing thrown around a lot lately. There is this new unspoken trend where our generation aspires to be eccentric and unlike the rest, striving for</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">some specific niche, style, and vibe. But think about it… If </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">everyone</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> aspires to be “cool,” by following trends and what&#8217;s “in” then aren&#8217;t you still considered basic?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I believe being unique is different than the idea of trying to fit an image that you like; for example, acting like your favorite idols, or getting inspiration from what is currently going “viral.” Instead, it includes the idea of finding inspiration from within: reflecting on </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">your </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">uniqueness and reminding yourself of who </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">you </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">are. So ask yourself, what is a quality I have that no one else embodies? What makes me </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">me</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This definitely provides room for self reflection, and you might not find that answer right away. However, this is a skillset which will ultimately allow you to reconnect with your own identity. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Even just from being back on campus this year, I can&#8217;t help but notice that we all subconsciously do the same things. I have noticed this common theme where everyone starts to have the same humor, speak the same lingo, and even dress the same way. It almost feels like a copy and paste, highlighting this new wave of “trendsetting.” </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another pattern I have noticed is that everybody wants to be an influencer or become famous. Unfortunately, Hollywood is not for everyone. Fame becomes impractical if you&#8217;re doing exactly what everyone else is doing. To say the least, there is nothing wrong about admiring one&#8217;s style or uniqueness. Things can get complicated when your mentality shifts towards assimilation; that&#8217;s where you begin to forget who </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">you</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> are. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Surely, I’m not one to deny that after interminably scrolling through my never-ending and addictive Tik-Tok and Instagram feeds, I think to myself “ those people are pretty cool, I want to be more like them.” Thereafter, I proceed to copy what others are doing, or try to act more like </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">this </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">influencer because I feel like </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">they</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> are funny and “cool.” However, that is not me. That is not my identity, and I can attest that following trends is not what makes me uniquely </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">me</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">. Here is your calling to be your own trendsetter. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another trend I have witnessed is specific clothing and style. The iconic line from </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mean Girls </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">holds true when Bethany says, “I saw Cady Haron wearing army pants and flip flops, so I bought army pants and flip flops.” Why is it that the majority of college students wear a trendy uniform each day? To me, clothing is a sense of expression; clothing gives one the ability to showcase a personality and an identity. I will be the first to admit that I too enjoy wearing clothing that&#8217;s “in.” However, I always try to remind myself that I need to dress for myself</span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">, </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">and nobody else. Sure, the thought does run through my head; “what are people going to think of me if I wear this to class,” but the words of the wise state that “your life isn&#8217;t yours if you always care what others think.”</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s easier said than done but we should all try to to stop caring about what other people think of us. Realistically, others’ opinions are irrelevant as long as you are happy with who you are. High School was consumed in trying to unravel this unspoken definition of “cool.” Have you ever thought about what “cool” even means? From my own experiences, trying to chase after what “cool” is will only pull you farther from your identity and your path of being your own trendsetter. Start living your life knowing that there is no formative definition of “cool.” For the time being, pretend like you have never even heard of the term “cool”; it will give you the freedom to be proud and unapologetically </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">you.</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So now, you are thinking about what qualities and traits you have that not many others have, and you have completely erased the term “cool” from your vocabulary. It&#8217;s time to find the people that charge your batteries, and not only fill up your cup, but overflow it. I am so thankful that I can say I wake up every morning to seven other girls who constantly remind me to be my goofy, unfiltered self. Every genuine laugh I share with them constantly reminds me of who I am as a person that makes me </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">me. </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">My friends bring out the unconditional happiness that makes me feel good about being the most authentic version of myself. This happiness becomes addicting; the routine of finding </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">your </span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;">people who allow you to laugh, cry, sing in the shower, and say the most out of pocket things with no judgment allow you to be your true unique</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">self</span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">.<img class="size-full wp-image-12462 aligncenter" src="https://tulanemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/4AFA336D-BF4E-42AA-B9C0-D74F05DDC5A0.jpeg" alt="" width="567" height="1054" /></span></i></p>
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